We discussed the first step of Emotion-Coaching in a blog about Validation last month. Validation is a powerful tool because it shows your child you understand their experience and it proves that you “get it.” After you have fully validated your child’s feelings, they will be ready and open to support. This involves meeting your child’s emotional and practical needs. Their emotional need may be met by offering comfort or space. Practical needs are met through redirecting your child, helping them problem solve, or setting limits. However, connection comes first. Meeting these needs will not work unless your child feels safe and understood. Remember to take a deep breath and check in with your own emotions first. Parents are superheroes who know their child best. *Tip: Match your child’s volume/tone/body language/energy. When it comes to anger, don’t show anger, just be expressive and use strong energy. Emotional Support:
Practical Support:
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Interested in the psychology behind co-regulating your child’s emotions? Watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 to see a famous experiment how children co-regulate their emotions with their caregivers. Click here for short-cuts and sentence starters to help practice this skill: https://e78f226b-636a-4b6d-b774-75ca09eb3c0c.filesusr.com/ugd/c390c7_85269bd0a7f0450c9b19167907654cb3.pdf Click here for a great article that explains this further: https://pickanytwo.net/the-train-analogy-that-will-change-how-you-see-your-crying-child/?utm_campaign=shareaholic&utm_medium=facebook&utm_source=socialnetwork Source: https://www.mentalhealthfoundations.ca/ Comments are closed.
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